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Helping LGBTQ+ Professionals Across the U.S. Find Real Love Since 1994

GayOptions is the nation’s original LGBTQ+ matchmaking service — helping thousands of gay and lesbian singles build lasting relationships through real, personal connections.

No apps. No algorithms. Just real matches that work.

What We Are

Our Members

Our diverse members are professionals aged 21–70+, all seeking genuine connections and meaningful relationships. Many are:

Your Matchmaking Journey

We start with a consultation, build your profile, and guide you through screening. Once you join, our expert matchmakers curate introductions and gather feedback to continually refine your matches—aiming to create what we call an "irresistible match." Our dedicated team and support staff are with you every step of the way.

"For those searching for a life partner." – METRO NEW YORK

"Out of all the gay and lesbian matchmaking services we looked into, OPTIONS received the most praise, even from its competitors." – L.A. WEEKLY

Meet Naiomi, Founder of Options

After over 30 years behind the scenes, Naiomi — the heart and founder of Options — steps in front of the camera to say hello. In this short message, she invites you to be part of something meaningful: a matchmaking experience built on depth, care, and connection.

“It’s taken me over 30 years to get in front of the camera… but I figured it was time to come out. No pun intended.”

What Our Members Are Saying

“At age 64 and 70 we finally found each other... Options made us possible and I am so very grateful.”
— Carla Bradley, Ph.D.
“Gay Options connected me with the real-life version of someone I’d only imagined.”
— Fran Maldari
“I had grown frustrated with the online dating scene… Options reassured me it may take time, but it would be worth it.”
— Lisa Fisher
“At long last love, Gay Options really came through for me! It didn't happen overnight but it was a huge success.”
— CeCe Pinheiro
“The staff listened carefully to my interests… I felt understood and respected—and excited when the match turned out to be someone I really connected with.”
— Karen G.
“I’ve had a very positive experience with Gay Options. They are professional, intuitive, and truly care.”
— Fran Maldari
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