Helping LGBTQ+ Professionals Across the U.S. Find Real Love Since 1994
GayOptions is the nation’s original LGBTQ+ matchmaking service — helping thousands of gay and lesbian singles build lasting relationships through real, personal connections.
No apps. No algorithms. Just real matches that work.
What We Are
- Providing personalized matchmaking services for LGBTQ+ singles seeking meaningful, long-term relationships since 1994.
- Experienced matchmakers work individually with you to ensure thoughtful, compatible introductions.
- We focus on over 100 physical and non-physical characteristics to craft personalized matches.
- We uphold strict privacy and screening standards for your security and peace of mind.
- An affordable, dignified alternative to bars and online dating.
Our Members
Our diverse members are professionals aged 21–70+, all seeking genuine connections and meaningful relationships. Many are:
- Privacy-conscious career professionals.
- Busy individuals ready to meet in person, not just chat online.
- People moving beyond the bar scene, looking for something real.
- Those with prior long-term relationship experience.
Your Matchmaking Journey
We start with a consultation, build your profile, and guide you through screening. Once you join, our expert matchmakers curate introductions and gather feedback to continually refine your matches—aiming to create what we call an "irresistible match." Our dedicated team and support staff are with you every step of the way.
"For those searching for a life partner." – METRO NEW YORK
"Out of all the gay and lesbian matchmaking services we looked into, OPTIONS received the most praise, even from its competitors." – L.A. WEEKLY
Meet Naiomi, Founder of Options
After over 30 years behind the scenes, Naiomi — the heart and founder of Options — steps in front of the camera to say hello. In this short message, she invites you to be part of something meaningful: a matchmaking experience built on depth, care, and connection.
“It’s taken me over 30 years to get in front of the camera… but I figured it was time to come out. No pun intended.”
What Our Members Are Saying
“At age 64 and 70 we finally found each other... Options made us possible and I am so very grateful.”
“Gay Options connected me with the real-life version of someone I’d only imagined.”
“I had grown frustrated with the online dating scene… Options reassured me it may take time, but it would be worth it.”
“At long last love, Gay Options really came through for me! It didn't happen overnight but it was a huge success.”
“The staff listened carefully to my interests… I felt understood and respected—and excited when the match turned out to be someone I really connected with.”
“I’ve had a very positive experience with Gay Options. They are professional, intuitive, and truly care.”
